MAKING TIME FOR JOY
In my last blog post, I wrote about the importance of creating a list of what makes you feel joy. It is impossible to create a solid self-care routine, if you don’t know what really makes you happy and feel full and excited because self-care starts with knowing what you need at the core of your being. If you haven’t tapped into that, then chances are, when you finally have time for yourself, that you fill it by either cleaning or something similar, or you feel like you just need to lie down for a few minutes, and ‘five episodes of Suits’-later, you’re beating yourself up for not having ‘done better’ with your time.
“But…?!?!”, you’re probably wanting to scream at me. “- how can I possibly go for a week long solo bush camping expedition when my partner is away and I have no one to look after the kids and the pets???”. Well, you can’t. But there is another way of utilising that feeling that bush camping gives you.
So here’s what you want to do:
You want to sit with your list of things that make you feel joy, and you want to focus on just one to begin with. You can either find a journal and get writing, or you can close your eyes and just focus on that particular thing for a few minutes. Ask yourself, what is it about this place that makes me feel so joyful? What is it about the smells and the sounds, or anything else that tickles your senses, that really resonates with you and fills you up?
Say one of your items on the joy list is going for a walk on the beach (that’s not me in the photo by the way), then the thing that fills you up could be the feeling of the wind on your skin and in your hair because it makes you feel free. Or it can be the sound of the waves because listening to the force of the water makes you feel like all your worries aren’t so significant after all, and it resets your focus.
What you can then do with those images and impressions is apply them to your day-to-day. So you might get a minute or two to yourself when you’re in the shower every morning. If this is the case, you can close your eyes, and listen to the sound of the water. Take a deep breath, and visualise yourself on that beach, and that the water you’re listening to, is the sound of the wave retreating from the beach.
Or if it is the wind on your face, then take yourself outside for a minute before going to work, or before going to bed at night, and again, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and connect with the feeling of air on your skin and with how the beach wind makes you feel.
While these little tricks aren’t the ‘real deal’ you can easily trick your body and mind into getting the same response as if they were experiencing the real deal. Our minds are powerful like that. And what you put your attention towards, your body will experience, much in the same way that if you’re feeling down, and someone forces you to smile, you may actually end up feeling happier than you started out with.
The clincher in this work of course, is to lean in to the work and focus on all the good it will bring. You have to be mindful and commit yourself to what you’re trying to achieve.
It is also about being persistent and making the time for this little play on a daily basis if you want long term effect. The positives, of course, is that once you get hooked, it becomes easier and easier to do.
And if you struggle getting traction on work like this, or getting started even, then write me a note, and let me guide you.
If you are dealing with bigger issues at the moment, a coaching series might just be the thing that can turn the tide for you, and get you back on track to feeling good and energised within yourself.
I offer a complimentary discovery session, where you can ask me anything you want and we can get a feel for whether we will be able to create magic together. A coaching series isn’t something to take light hearted, so we both want to be sure that we’re a good match.
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In the meantime, let me know in the comments below what elements from your joy list, you will be able to bring into your life with the circumstances you’re currently living in.